By Anubhav Srivastava ( Register for his Workshop – Build Super Confidence For Super Success!)
How many of you think that a winner never quits and a quitter never wins?
If you think that this statement is always true, does it mean quitting something like smoking means the person is not a winner? In fact it took will power to QUIT in this scenario. This person is the heart of a winner!
Let me ask you another question. How many of you think professional wrestling is real? If you are an adult reading this and still think it is real, then you probably should not read this article any further!
But seriously, when you were kids, how many used to think, that pro wrestling was real? You know that these people pretended to hate each other and there were the good guys and the bad guys and the bad guy was always doing devious things and you were always rooting for the good guy. Sometimes the good guy became the bad guy and you started hating him, sometimes the bad guy became the good guy and you used to cheer him on.
Now when we grew up, most of us started realizing that all these stories were nonsense! These guy really don’t hate each other. The best friends on screen might hate each other. The bitter enemies on screen might be best friends. BUT, there was some truth in the sense that the injuries they sometimes sustained and the risks involved were very real. The athleticism, the hard work, the training, the risks, the injuries, all of that was real. You need to be a real athlete to be able to withstand so much punishment to the body, you need to be trained to make everything look believable. Pro Wrestlers are like actors who do their own stunts and that effort is very real.
So what’s my point with the Pro Wrestling analogy, however silly it may seem?
My point is that statements like “A winner never quits and a Quitter Never Wins” are a lot like Pro wrestling. Some of it is very real and some of it is absolute nonsense.
The TRUTH is that a winner knows when to quit and when to stick it out. A winner never quits on a worthy goal.
They used to say when the going gets tough, the tough get going. I have a different take on it. I believe when the going gets tough, the wise analyze whether going further is even worth it. If you are tough and keep on going and there is a cliff at the end, does not matter if you kept on going, you are just going fall off!
Suppose you really really like a person and you want them as a life partner. Now let’s say you approach them and they keep turning you down again, and again and again and again to the point that they are really annoyed with you. Do you think you should never quit or do you think you should quit?
You should quit or you are going to be labelled a stalker and might have a police complaint filed against you.
You see, you may think being in a relationship with that person was your goal, but it’s not. It was just a path to the goal. Your real goal is to find a worthy partner.
Perseverance is only smart when you focus on the bigger picture, the real goal. So your real goal is to find a worthy partner. So you might try again and again to ask out other people and some may still turn you down. Some of them might even tell you what they do not find attractive about you. So change it! That’s called learning from failure!
Heck, you may even finally get a partner only to have them break up or whatever. Fine, learn from that failure again. And if they cheated, you should really consider yourself lucky to not end up with the wrong person.
But you know what it’s fine, it may seem like bad luck but it’s really not. All of this is a process to make that will make you wiser and help you value the right person when you finally meet them. The life partner who has all the qualities you were looking for, someone who understands you for who you are and values you enough to always stick by you.
So you keep going through rejections, keep learning from why they rejected you, keep learning from setbacks like breakups until you finally meet the right person, the life partner who has all the qualities you were looking for, someone who understands you for who you are and values you enough to always stick by you.
They may not be the person you had your first crush on. They may not be the “popular” girl or guy. But they will love you, care for you and make you happy. They will be perfect for you. And you will be perfect for them You both will have an ideal life partner for each other. Now that is the realization of a worthy goal.
And Career Goals are no different. Don’t get too focused on the path. Focus on the destination.
About The Author
Anubhav Srivastava is an author, motivational speaker and the director of Carve Your Destiny, a first of its kind inspirational documentary featuring some of the most famous personalities from diverse fields, who teach the viewers how they too can make all of their dreams come true. The movie itself has been seen on Youtube by close to 600,000 people. Anubhav has also been featured in numerous International and India Media outlets such as BBC , The Times of India, Hindustan Times, Rediff.com, Leicester Mercury and many others.
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