By Anubhav Srivastava ( Register for his Workshop – Build Super Confidence For Super Success!)
Bad Habits are hard to give up but you need to do so if you want success. . The fact is just as there are good habits that successful people share there are many habits that minimize any success you want in life, Let’s take a look at Seven Bad Habits to Give Up if you want to succeed.
1: Slacking off
Success is all about choosing between what you want now and what you want most. It is about deciding whether watching that TV show is important or working on your dream business or profession is. It is about deciding whether that pizza is more important or a fit body. It is about deciding whether playing video games is more important or passing an important exam.
Everyday your better thought has to win over a weaker thought. What is it that is more important to you? Is it temporary instant gratification or long term gratification? While there is no denying that from time to time instant gratification and enjoying life is important, wilfully ignoring the desire or urge for something temporary in order to get to something more long lasting is the hallmark of greatness.
2: Blaming others
One of the worst habit is blaming others for one’s lack of success. I have already stated that there is no denying the fact not everyone is on an equal footing and some people do tend to have opportunities that are more as compared to others but ultimately at the end of the day sustained success or a sustained failure over a long term comes down to one’s own personal habits, not sheer good or bad luck.
It is understandable to be upset or vent your anger at others for having something wrong done to you. But understand that if you keep blaming others and consider everyone else responsible for what happens to you instead of taking personal responsibility guess who is going to suffer as a result, YOU.
It is a waste of energy and time to blame others. If you are angry, vent to a friend and move on. Don’t hold on to a victim like attitude, it is only going to kill you and guarantee your failure. Give up this bad habit.
Even people who seem perfectly happy in their life get jealous when their neighbour gets a new car. People perfectly happy with their own partners often get jealous when one of their friends has a new attractive one!
Jealousy often disappears when the one you are jealous of loses what they have, you don’t even need to get what they have, as long as they lose what they acquired, jealousy disappears. So in other words jealous people are finding pain in others joy and joy in others pain.
So what should you do. Replace Jealousy with an attitude of either being happy for what someone else has and moving on OR if you feel that something is truly lacking in your own life, seeing that person has someone to be inspired from, someone to be emulated so that you too get what they have achieved. Jealousy is all about having a crab mentality and pulling the other person down, this attitude is about trying hard to climb up yourself.
Backbiting and bitching is often an extension of jealousy and is definitely one of the worst bad habits to give up.These are people who often show great appreciation in front of you but say the nastiest of things the moment you turn your back.
A backbiter thinks that by criticising others to another group of people, he is giving them entertainment and thus winning friends but that is far from the truth. The fact is that most reasonably smart people understand that if someone is a chronic backbiter and bitches about most people to them, it means he or she bitches about them to other people as well! A backbiter builds a terrible reputation and nobody trusts them. A backbiter is seen as a clown it is okay to get gossip from but never someone you can trust as a friend. How will you ever succeed in life if no one trusts you. If you want to achieve your dreams, avoid this behavior and protect your reputation at all costs.
5: Talking but never doing anything about it.
A lot of people love to talk about how they are going to start their dream business, they brag about how they are going to go for that dream job, they talk about how they are going to get their dream physique but all they do is talk, they never do anything about it.
How many of such talkers do you know? I know of people who have forever been in the process of thinking about setting up a business but never taken the leap. What separates the dreamers from the doers is simply action. It is about taking the first step and then the second and then the third, taking them CONSISTENTLY. Even if you go slow you will achieve far more than those who do nothing at all.
6: Not being Open Minded
People who are too narrow minded lose out on every aspect of life. Their judgements and preconceived notions make them stick to the same old path that has been set before them. Rigid people refuse to see new opportunities, they refuse to see new trends, they refuse to adapt. They would rather conform to the old rather than embrace the new and suffer as a result.
When smartphones came out established companies such as Nokia did not take the trend seriously. They did not take the iPhone seriously. The people at Nokia thought at Apple was a computer company and there was no way they could compete with an established telecom giant like Nokia. They thought their loyal customers would stick to them. They ignored the most important part which was that customers flock to where the user experience is the most convenient. They refused to adapt to the new and suffered greatly as a result.
If you want to succeed, keep your eyes open.
The difference between confidence and arrogance is simply about how you treat others. A confidence person has a high self esteem and treats others with the same respect as he respects his own abilities. On the other hand an arrogant person may not necessarily have high self esteem, but treats others or their ideas with contempt. In fact an arrogant person themselves may not be confident at all and maybe extremely insecure or suffering from low self esteem, that is why they can validate their own importance only by demeaning others.
Arrogance is one of the worst traits to have for anyone looking to have sustained success. There is probably not a single story of how one’s humility came in the way of their success but countless ones how of how one’s arrogance messed it up terribly. The fact is that none of us is self made. Even people who claim they are self made depend on support, appreciation and compensation from others around them to build themselves up. If you go around alienating most people or their ideas, guess what at some point it will all come back to you. They will stop working with you, stop helping you out. The ones you demeaned will never entertain you once they become successful on their own. In the end you will end up digging your own grave. If you want respect, give respect.
The author of this article, Anubhav Srivastava is an author, motivational speaker and the director of Carve Your Destiny, a first of its kind inspirational documentary featuring some of the most famous personalities from diverse fields, who teach the viewers how they too can make all of their dreams come true. The movie itself has been seen on Youtube by close to 600,000 people. Anubhav has also been featured in numerous International and India Media outlets such as BBC , The Times of India, Hindustan Times, Rediff.com, Leicester Mercury and many others.
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